Getting Comfortable with the Uncomfortable
Sharing a conversation about embracing the icky, unfamiliar and uncomfortable feelings that can often keep us stuck to strengthen and change ourselves into the people we are meant to be. We’re getting comfortable with the uncomfortable.
Whether by choice or my circumstance, we are faced with uncomfortable situations often. They can feel risky, anxious-ridden, and sometimes scary. It could be a choice you made, a leap of faith into a new adventure. Or it could be something completely out of your control, like losing your job or changes in your health. No matter the situation though, there is always beauty and growth that comes from uncomfortableness. It’s time to embrace it!
Shaunae Begins the Episode with a Quote from Her Blog
“If I never went through that uncomfortable feeling of inadequacy, I never would have realized how important it was for me to overcome it. I’ve had other tragedies, hardships, and transitions in my life that have felt SO uncomfortable that I just wanted to jump out of my skin! But you have to go on! We have to go through those icky, uncomfortable moments in life to reach our higher destiny. To grow stronger and help others. To learn something new about ourselves. To dig deeper into the core of who we are. You’ll never learn anything if life is easy. You’ll never grow. It may not be fun but I promise you, that uncomfortable feeling is only temporary. I became comfortable with feeling uncomfortable and I hope you do the same. Feeling uncomfortable is a good thing! It strengthens us and helps us change into the people we are meant to be.”
Shaunae’s Real Life Examples of Feeling Uncomfortable
Growing up, she was painfully shy. Her aunt guided her in this journey and told her to lift her head up and walk with confidence, to engage with others. It was difficult during that time but with every new interaction, it became easier and helped Shaunae to be the outgoing, friendly person she is today. But it all started from a very uncomfortable beginning. She also graduated high school at only 17, moved across the country to attend college, and felt absolutely homesick. She powered through and is so grateful that she did because it led her to start her photography business once she graduated.
Sarah’s Real Life Examples of Feeling Uncomfortable
Getting up in front of classes to speak always scared Sarah. Even early in her career, this fear stayed with her. Her boss recognized her fear and helped her improve with a group called Toastmasters. It helped her become aware of what she was doing, how she was speaking, and helped her realize that nothing bad is going to happen when she is speaking in front of people.
Getting Uncomfortable in Business
“No risk, no reward.” Taking leaps in your business – going full time, hiring staff members, etc – can be a scary, uncomfortable thing. Even if you have a plan in place, it’s okay to feel scared in the moment. But don’t let that stop you. Push through and keep going until you make it out on the other side. Shaunae shares the quote she says all the time at her home, “Do it afraid.” Fear is okay, use it to benefit you, instead of control you.
Helpful Links Mentioned in This Episode
- Shaunae’s 30 Before 30 Project
- Shaunae’s Blog Post: Become Comfortable with the Uncomfortable
- PreviewPreview1:28“A Letter to Fear” by Elizabeth Gilbert
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Shaune Teske 0:00
So I need to go through it, get to that point, get over it. Know, that is just a part of the journey, because the end goal is way worth it.
Sarah Schrader 0:20
Shaune, I’m so excited to be back recording this podcast with you.
Shaune Teske 0:24
I know, it feels like we’ve been on the longest break ever. It was a little bit.
Sarah Schrader 0:34
We’ve both just had a lot going on, and one thing when we started to record these episodes, we both said is we want this to be something we enjoy. We don’t want it to be something that becomes a burden. And we want it to be something that provides a ton of value for our listeners. So we just hit a point where it was a little bit too much to handle putting out an episode every single week and decided to step back for a little bit. And now we’ve regrouped. And here we are.
Shaune Teske 1:07
Yeah, and we, going forward want it to be again, still with that same thing in mind where it is full of value and it’s full of great content, not just we have to fill this week, so let’s just put something out there. Which we were kind of running into. And we didn’t, it was not fair to you, and it was not fair to us. So we’re really excited for the second season of the podcast, that we are doing them now in seasons. It’s not going to be every every week for the whole year or anything like that. We are being very intentional about what we are creating and what we are putting out there. So you can still expect an episode per week, but it is going to be within a season. And I believe we have 13 episodes, Sarah?
Sarah Schrader 1:53
Correct. So we’ll be putting out an episode every week for the next 12 weeks after this episode as well.
Shaune Teske 2:03
So we hope you love it and enjoy this new structure that we’re doing. It’s still going to be all the same great content, book club, guest interviews, talking about travel, talking about business talking about self care. And we’d love to know what you think of this change and what your favorite episode is at the end of the season.
Sarah Schrader 2:24
Yeah. All right. Let’s stop making them wait. Let’s jump into this stuff.
You’re listening to the Creative Legacy Podcast, a podcast for creative entrepreneurs to build their business while leading a life of intention, joy and adventure. I’m Sarah, a brand strategist and designer, helping entrepreneurs craft their brands to speak boldly and reach their ideal client. I’m joined by my friend and co host Shaune, a wedding photographer and educator that helps photographers, creatives and small business owners cultivate intentional lives and build at their most abundant business.
Shaune Teske 3:05
If I never went through that uncomfortable feeling of inadequacy, I never would have realized how important it was for me to overcome it. I’ve had other tragedies, hardships, transitions in my life, that have felt so uncomfortable that I just wanted to jump out of my skin. But you have to go on, you have to go through those icky uncomfortable moments in life, to reach your higher destiny, to grow stronger, to help others, to learn something new about ourselves to dig deeper into the core of who we are. You’ll never learn anything if life is easy, you’ll never grow. It may not be fun, but I promise you that uncomfortable feeling is only temporary. I became comfortable with feeling uncomfortable. And I hope you do the same. Feeling uncomfortable is a good thing. It strengthens us and helps us change into the people we are meant to be.
Sarah Schrader 4:00
Yes, I love that. We are talking about getting uncomfortable today and getting comfortable with getting uncomfortable. And so many of the points that you, you read this from a blog post you wrote.
Shaune Teske 4:15
Yes, that was, those are my words. Those are not…quoting myself there.
Sarah Schrader 4:21
So growth, learning about yourself, helping others. Those, I mean, those are things we want. So to get there, we have to be willing to step out of our own comfort zones. Our security blankets. What we’re familiar with, to be able to reach those points. And that is why it is just so important to start taking on those icky feelings, those uncomfortable moments, the things that scare us and make us, like tremble in fear of like, “I don’t know if I can do that. That’s too risky. That’s too scary,” to fight through that, to break through that, to move on and over it, overcome it, into that place of growth and learning more about ourselves.
Shaune Teske 5:11
Because anything in life that is worth having isn’t going to just happen. And everything feels good and warm and fuzzy, a lot of things happen, alot of good things come out of not so good situations, scary situations, anxiety ridden situations, or just plain, “I don’t know if I can do this” type situations. And if we just didn’t follow through, if we didn’t push past it, if we were uncomfortable, and so then we stopped, we would never get anywhere. And we’d be living that same life over and over again, until we’re no longer here. And that’s no fun.
Sarah Schrader 5:47
Yeah, and I mean, those are even moments of you’re forced into it.
Shaune Teske 5:51
Yeah, sometimes not a choice.
Sarah Schrader 5:53
Right. But to think of like, a lot of people’s entrepreneurial journeys, if they didn’t make that first step to say, “Okay, I’m going to do this, and I’m going to make it work no matter what,” where would they be?
Right. If you were just laid off from your job, and now you have to, you have the side business, and now you’re like, this is my whole business. What do I do? And you have to get comfortable with uncomfortableness. That’s the whole thing. And easier, easier said than done.
Even if you just want it like, you have the job, but you’re like, I don’t want that to be my thing. Like you gotta get, you got to get through that little bit of tough newness that feels so strange and awkward.
Shaune Teske 6:36
Yes. And I think there’s different levels of being uncomfortable. We’re never talking about being uncomfortable in a situation that’s going to put you in danger. Don’t do that. Don’t get comfortable with that, get out of there. But some of the things we talked about was fear. Fear of failure, fear of the situation, we talked about, you know, maybe not feeling adequate in what you’re doing. Not feeling worthy of what you’re doing. All those things are going to make you start feeling uncomfortable, or you don’t feel good enough, or you don’t feel at this place enough, all those things are gonna start making you feel uncomfortable.
Sarah Schrader 7:14
Do you have a real life example of a time you got uncomfortable?
Shaune Teske 7:18
All the time? I’m uncomfortable right now. No, there’s so many big examples, little examples that I can share. One of some bigger ones, there’s been plenty of times in my life where I didn’t like this certain thing and I had to move forward. So one of them is I don’t like getting my photo taken. And everyone is gonna be shocked, because you see tons of pictures of me, on all my social media, and all over my branding, but I really did it. I was really, I was a shy kid growing up, I really had to learn to come out of my shell that was very uncomfortable. I remember being an adolescent, very moody, you know, and shy. And I had one of my aunts told me to, look up. She would, she would see me walking. You know, we were coming to like a movie or something, walking with my head down. And if someone knew me, say, trying to say hi, but I would walk with my head down. She’s like, you need to, you need to raise your head, you need to look up and look at people. And that was really hard at the time. I was like, “No, I want to be moody. I’m a teenager,” you know, but it really taught me to, like, hold my head high, to talk to people, learn to make conversations and not be afraid of people, and kind of overcome that shyness. That was a big, big one. Right away, as a kid, you could have just stayed in that shyness, but I had to fight through it. And if I didn’t, I wouldn’t have started a business I wouldn’t have, there’s so many things that if I didn’t go over this hurdle of being uncomfortable, then I wouldn’t get to this next one, to keep me going forward. If I would have stopped here, there’s no way I could do all these other things. So I forgot what my first example was going to be because that example came into play. But I mean, that is what is constant about my life is that it’s full of one uncomfortable thing that taught me this that brought me to this next level that got me uncomfortable, and so on until I’m here now and I’m still doing things that make me uncomfortable. I think going back to school was a big one. I graduated high school when I was, I was a junior so I graduated a year early. I was only 17. And I could have picked a school that was in town. I could still lived with my parents. I could have, a lot of things and I was like “No, I want to do this program in Massachusetts. I’m 17 how are we going to do that?” And I got there, like “yeah, I’ll be fine whatever.” And I got there and I was not fine. I was homesick. I was not an adult like, you know. I’m living in this place and I don’t know, crying my eyes out every day just missing home. That first month was so tough love. I really love the saying, I was like looking at other schools in my hometown. Like, I should just go back, you know, I can just, you know, start over and do something else. And I really, I had a great support system of, “yeah, of course, you know, if you want to come home, but we know you can do this.” And I had an, I have a lot of very strong women in my life. So I have another aunt, it’s all about how my aunts have pushed me, thanks a lot. Another aunt, she didn’t even give me the option and she’s like, “I’ll see a Christmas, you can do this.” And I don’t wanna say it was tough love, but it was that kind of like, “no, you’ve got everything you need, you can do this.” And I was like, okay, hold my head high. I’ve learned that lesson. I’m going to go in and I did. And I didn’t come home. And I finished through and it allowed me to get my understanding of photography, allowed me to start my business, and again, now we’re here. All those lessons of being uncomfortable.
Sarah Schrader 10:55
I mean, to think if you hadn’t learned to look up. You probably wouldn’t be making the connections you are now, if you hadn’t gone away. I mean, maybe you did something here, but you wouldn’t have had that same experience that brought you to the level you are at.
Shaune Teske 11:07
What it just did, it ignited this love of travel. It allowed me to meet people from all over the country and to be able to travel all over the country. All these things though, wouldn’t have happened if you didn’t take that one step. So that’s what this is all about is, even though it’s a scary right now or uncomfortable right now, or unsure, you don’t know what the future is going to hold, if you say no, what are you going to lose? What are you going to miss out on for not going forward? What about you Sarah, tell me some examples, cause we could talk foreve about my…I think I’m uncomfortable with everything.
Sarah Schrader 11:43
We could throw it back to like, learning to ride a bike.
Shaune Teske 11:46
I still don’t know how to ride a bike, because it’s so uncomfortable. Yeah, that’s the whole point of my 30 before 30 project. There’s a lot of things on there. I don’t know how to do a cartwheel.
Yeah, ice skating was one that you just said.
Ice skating. Yeah, I don’t, I didn’t know how to ice skate because I was so…there are a lot of things for me, because I’m a perfectionist, and I’m trying not to be, that if I’m not good at it, that’s one of the things about being uncomfortable. If you’re not talented at the thing, I don’t want to do it. I don’t like it. That’s why some games I don’t like. I’m like, no, we’re not playing that. I want to just sit and talk. So ice skating was one. I was really afraid of it. And also, I just didn’t have the opportunities. M”y parents were never like, “let’s go ice skating.” And I was like, “No.” You know, there wasn’t that either. But then you get to be almost 30 and you’ve never gone ice skating.
Sarah Schrader 12:34
Shaune Teske 12:35
I do kind of know how to ride a bike, just saying. But not very well. I’ve never gone on like a long bike ride. I would never be like, ’cause I just didn’t, I was very uncomfortable.
Sarah Schrader 12:44
Yeah, I mean, there’s little things like that too. Even when I was in Lisbon last year, they had those electric scooters, lime scooters, and we don’t have those here in Green Bay. So my first time on it, at first you’re like okay, this is awkward, balancing and scary, and going over cobblestones, not fun. But as soon as we got onto the solid pavement I was getting control of it and it was the blast of a day and I loved it. But even Vienna, like oh my gosh, I could think of so many little examples. But for me, a big one I think was speaking. I hated, absolutely hated getting up in front of classes and talking. And even early in my career, I had a boss who came to me and like, you get a lot more comfortable with speaking. And so she put me in Toastmasters, which is a group that you basically go and speak in front of the whole room. And people are writing comments on how you did and what you can improve.
Shaune Teske 13:50
Sounds like a nightmare.
Sarah Schrader 13:54
It really wasn’t. It’s supportive. And I feel like there’s somebody who’s timing you to make sure you’re staying within a time limit, because that’s part of it. If you’re going to do speaking, you have to be able to understand kind of where your time is at. But then somebody is counting, I just said “umm”, I’m thinking about that. They’re counting your “umms”, “buts”, “so’s” and a lot of those filler words that become comfort. So in high school, there was one class I was in, I was in AP Lit class, I believe. and we did a talk and literally every person that went up ended their talk with “and yeah.”
Shaune Teske 14:34
And yeah, that’s exactly how I do it. Yup. Have they been listening to this podcast? ‘Cause that’s how I talk.
Sarah Schrader 14:41
But she started saying, “you can’t say that. You can’t do that.” And she’d start taking points off if you did that. So you had to go into this space of “okay, I can’t say that. Like, how am I going to end this?” But same thing with Toastmasters, you just start to become more aware of what you’re doing and as you’re practicing it, you grow out of that. So I realize ev”ery time I say “umm” now, I’m saying it, I still fall on it.
Shaune Teske 15:06
I can’t help it. And then you go, “Oh, goodness, sorry, I’m human.
Sarah Schrader 15:10
I have that thought. But I’m definitely more comfortable speaking in front of people, like, nothing bad’s gonna happen to me. If I stumble on something. And I think a big one a lot of people can relate to now, because video is becoming so more prevalent, is video. I’ve heard so many times people are like, “I just, I’m not comfortable getting in front of a camera”, “doing a Facebook Live and Instagram Live is so awkward.”
Shaune Teske 15:35
And that literally just brought me back to that’s what my example was that I, I don’t like get my picture taken and how I had to have forced myself to do that. And now it’s like, okay, whatever, I’m just not gonna look at the picture because we’re, we’re just our own worst critic about ourselves. Same with video. But I had to do it because I wanted to learn how my clients felt. So then I could be a better photographer and say, “I know what this is like, because I’ve been on your side.” And now, same with video of, yes, it feels weird or podcasting. To hear your voice. I’m over it now ’cause I’ve done, we’ve done enough so many times and I’ve listened, but…
Sarah Schrader 16:12
It’s still weird for me editing them, for sure.
Shaune Teske 16:15
I don’t have to edit them, so I just have to write the notes and so I go, “uh huh, I think I got this.” It is, it is strange. Anything, anytime we’re putting ourselves in that vulnerable position, where it’s our voice, our, how we look, ourselves on video, any of that, that’s really icky or uncomfortable. I don’t like that feeling, I don’t know anyone that likes that feeling. And if you do, you should be a model or something. Because then go do that you’re gonna get photographed all the time. But I hear that all the time with my clients, is that, “well, we don’t take very good pictures”, “we’re awkward”, “I don’t know how to do this.” Because it’s weird. It’s a weird, it puts yourself on display. You feel very vulnerable, getting in front of a camera or in front of a mic like that.
Sarah Schrader 17:00
Yeah. There’s a quote that you hear a lot, the “no risk, no reward.” And I’m just thinking of, sticking on the video example, TikTok has been blowing up lately.
Shaune Teske 17:15
I love it. I just want to do it so bad. And I do not know what to do videos about.
Sarah Schrader 17:20
We should make one after this.
Shaune Teske 17:21
Yeah, I just seeing my hands movin.
Sarah Schrader 17:25
But I mean, there’s teenagers that are doing it. There’s one that’s super popular. I think her name’s Charli D’Amelio, and she does dances. She loves dancing. She does it. She has 23 million followers.
So yeah, I mean, just to do it and get out there like you, if it doesn’t go over, nobody’s gonna see it anyway, ’cause nobody’s going to go back and look at it. But if it’s something that you’re giving from a place of value, then somebody is going to appreciate it.
Shaune Teske 17:58
Right. Or I think that’s the other part of that could be very uncomfortable. Maybe you’re, you’re okay, you’re like “ok, I faced the fear of getting infront of the camera. But now what if no one likes it? What if no one buys? And what if no one clicks.” So what? As long as you you have reached one person, like he said, as long as you’ve added value to one person, that is one person that has learned something and gotten more out of it than zero people if you never did it. And now that one person tells another person and they tell their, I mean, and it’s just, that’s how following people works, or it should work, that the one tells the other and it just starts spreading out and you can start making a bigger difference. But even if you just make a small difference, isn’t that enough, you know, isn’t that good enough? It doesn’t have to be we reach all these people. If you change one person’s life by getting a little uncomfortable and sharing your heart, sharing your your vulnerability, then it was worth it. Letting one person know they’re not alone. I really appreciate that now more than ever, with like, we’re trying to start a family. And it’s, I’m not I don’t want to be like we are having infertility problems. We don’t know, we’re learning. It’s been a journey of learning about ourselves and our bodies. And I really appreciate people that have been very open and honest. And I’m sure it’s very uncomfortable in the moment sharing, “hey, I’m going through this thing.” And it’s instantly I am like I’m not alone or easily I know someone else is going through that same thing that’s just like a health personal thing. But being able to share that getting uncomfortable sharing that. Now I don’t think you should go and share all the things, but some of that is really beneficial then for someone else who is going through the same thing. Yeah, so getting uncomfortable might help somebody else. Yeah,
Sarah Schrader 19:41
I mean, totally. If one person opens up about whether, like you said, infertility or even just losing a child and pregnancy or eating disorders, like anything, there’s somebody who’s gonna be able to relate to that and it’s, that’s community building, which is amazing, and it just gets more discussion. I think that’s always an amazing thing.
Shaune Teske 20:02
And we’re talking about you know that as a personal thing, I think one of the biggest places you can get uncomfortable is in your business. I mean, yeah, we have plenty of examples of that. I think, for me, the biggest is just going full time. That is the was so weird and so uncomfortable. And I could have easily held on to, well, I have a full time job and make good money, I could just do this photography on the side. And I never would have opened up to my full potential of what it could be as a photographer, as a business owner, I had to take that leap. And I was, I was afraid I was scared, I was unsure of what would happen, I did my best to plan. But that’s the second part of it is you can plan and do all this stuff. And you can still be scared, you can still be uncomfortable. Even if you planned it, you’ve talked it all out, you can still be uncomfortable. And we have a saying that we talk about here in in our home, do it afraid. Like, you just have to do it afraid. Even if you are unsure, you’re scared. It’s uncomfortable. Just do it. But just do it afraid. Yeah, there’s nothing wrong with being scared. Nothing wrong.
Sarah Schrader 21:10
Yeah, that’s great. That example like going full time is a great one. But even those who are working full time, maybe the next step is hiring somebody on their team, like that’s a new step. I’m going to be leading somebody, I have to make processes for them to follow, give them things to do and make sure they’re doing it right. Like, that’s just a whole ‘nother level too. But that’s the steps of growth. If that’s where you want, if you want to grow beyond that, you have to get comfortable with that.
Shaune Teske 21:40
I think just owning a business is uncomfortable, like literally every day, I think literally every day. So that’s why you have to be okay with it. Because if you are forcing it, or hoping that one day, it’s not going to feel uncomfortable, you stop growing, that’s the biggest thing is, once it stops feeling uncomfortable, then maybe it’s time for the next level or maybe like nope, I’m good, I want to stay here, then a different life challenge is going to come up they have to go through, that’s fine. But you want to keep growing and keep hitting new levels, new height, there’s going to be those moments where it doesn’t feel good.
Sarah Schrader 22:18
When we’re facing these things, a big thing that comes up is often fear. And I think if you if you’ve ever had any sort of business coach, they’re gonna say like fears kind of that protective voice of wanting to keep you safe. And there’s a quote in Big Magic by Elizabeth Gilbert, but I like, it’s her letter to fear. And I’ll leave it, I’m gonna leave a video because it’s fun in the show notes, with her letter to fear written out, but basically she’s saying like fear of like, “thank you for being there for wanting to protect me. But you don’t get to have the driver’s seat. Like you get to be there. But I’m in control, and I get to make the decisions.” And I think that’s a really fun way to look at it. Like, be grateful for wanting to be safe and wanting to be protected. But the fact that you get to step out that. You get to make the choice to go beyond, to grow to, do the thing that is going to get you to your dream that you want to do, or to the next place in your life. How freeing is that “Yes, I get to choose, I get to do it.”
Shaune Teske 23:32
I love that visual or another visual visual, I always think about is you’re literally pulling, you’re like a person, you are pulling them along for the dream. Like “come on, we’re doing this.” We’re going, they are trying to drag you back and instead, you’re pulling them forward and going “we’re doing this. Let’s go.” You’re still coming along, ’cause I am afraid I need you here. If I wasn’t afraid, I wouldn’t move forward. And so I need you here but we’re gonna still do this. We’re not gonna stay back here. We’re moving forward. So I always think oflike kids like tugging, you know, like when you were a kid and you like “let’s go play” and you pull your sister. My sister’s like “Yes, I know. She pulled me all over the place.”
Sarah Schrader 24:17
Made me think of like the kicker that like, “I don’t wanna.”
Shaune Teske 24:21
Yeah. I think too, because it’s like, we always sit in the “what’s gonna happen?” and “I’m afraid of what’s going to happen.” I think when you literally sit and ask that question, “well what’s the worst that could happen?” What, like what, you fail? Then you do something else. What you get hurt well? Well then you I mean, hopefully you’re not getting hurt. You’re putting yourself in situations but if you do, you get back up. You heal. The worst one is death, but I hope you’re not making decisions like that.
Sarah Schrader 24:52
Nothing to riskyour life.
Shaune Teske 24:54
No. None of that but one for me that is just totally, it’s just a good metaphor for the “do it afraid” is, I’m super afraid of heights. It’s not logical, but literally every time we travel somewhere, I make Matt go up something high. Like whether we’re in Chicago and we have to do that, like glass floor thing. Terrifying, we did that and it was really hard. Or like we did this, they have this glass slide in LA and it was just a completely glass slide and you’re sliding above, this huge building and is terrifying. Just, I make myself do it. No one’s telling me to go go climb up that building and go do that thing. But it just reminds me that like fear is okay. And I’m still safe. Nothing’s gonna happen to me. Now I’m going to be like gripping Matt’s hand. Or, the one in LA, I was like talking to the guy who’s gonna show me how to do the slide, I’m like, “I’ll go down, right? I’m not gonna break, right?” It was terrifying. But I like to do those things that push me. Because if I don’t do it, I’m not going to grow.
I think the biggest one in Chicago is the john Hancock one that tilts.
I can’t do that. Oh, I did the Glass Floor and I barely got out there. Matt had to be like, “no further” And I’m like, “I can’t. I suck.” And then I didn’t get a good picture so I made him do it again. We did twice. So the pusher fear though, and doing it and then knowing that I’m not gonna die. I’m not. I mean, that’s the most extreme, but nothing bad’s gonna happen. Where if something does bad, something happens that is not good, then we’re gonna roll with it. But most of the time when we step into fear, we let it come along with us for the ride, we get uncomfortable. You’ve already accepted that, so it’s not gonna get worse from there. You’re already on your way out. Yeah.
Sarah Schrader 26:53
Big one for me, I just remembered. I would have not been to as many places I have been if I hadn’t gotten over my fear of flying.
Shaune Teske 27:01
Wow. Who knew?
Sarah Schrader 27:04
Yeah, I definitely had major fear. And still do. As we’re taking off in a plane and landing, I’m like, holding my hands, like, closing my eyes and like, “please let this take off safely.” But yeah, I wouldn’t have been able to go as many places if I hadn’t gotten on that first plane ride.
Shaune Teske 27:25
Such a great step. I think that’s the, that’s the key, you have to take the first step. And if you’ve never done this, if you’re listening to this, and you’re like, I’ve never felt uncomfortable, okay, well, we’re gonna, you gotta get started, we got to do some things that are going to push you but like most of us, I’m sure you all can pull from a situation where you have felt uncomfortable, it’s felt icky. You felt like jumping out of your skin, you felt like, this isn’t, this doesn’t feel good. But the thing I want is on the other side. The new opportunity, the new adventure, the whatever is on that side, so I have to go through it. I can’t jump over it. I can’t skip it. Because if I do, then down the line, I’m gonna have to do it again. So I need to go through it. Get to that point, get over it. Know that is just a part of the journey, because the end goal is way worth it.
Sarah Schrader 28:18
Yes, definitely. Alright, so if you are listening to this right now, if you are having a hard time getting on video, challenge you to do that first video. If you are not comfortable with just talking to people, make a list of five people and go talk to them by the end of the week. If you are uncomfortable with what’s another example, if you’re uncomfortable riding a bike, go get a bike and ride a bike.
Shaune Teske 28:47
I don’t know. It’s taking those steps. Yes. If there’s, only you know what, what is risky and feels not so great in your life. I would say make a list, make a list of the things that, “okay, what is holding me back from taking this next step?” You know what is in business in your personal life, maybe you make a list and then you make a 30 before 30 list and then you do a bunch of those things.
Sarah Schrader 29:14
And Shaune has a great resource, you can download it.
Shaune Teske 29:18
I got a worksheet for you. But it just allows you to face it head on and say, here’s the thing that’s holding me back or it’s just something I haven’t done yet. I want to get to that level. Not all of it is uncomfortable, but a part of it could be and just getting past that, you’ll be surprised at the person you’ve become and the new opportunities you’ll have if you just push past it. So I also recommend during any of this time if you’re facing fears or you’re going into these next steps or these next journeys in your life, to journal it, to write it down so you can look back and go “oh my gosh, like this led me to this.” Literally just in this episode me saying talking about something else and then it brought me back to the…but in school if I didn’t, if I was still shy, I didn’t lift my head and made eye contact with people, there’s no way I could have done any of the other things. So it’s literally as small as that. Getting out of your shell getting out of your bubble can take you to new heights.
Sarah Schrader 30:19
And even beyond that, one other thing you can do to help, some sort of visual as a vision, like a vision board, or just one image of where you want to be, what you want to do. put that up there as a motivation.
Shaune Teske 30:32
And you’re good to go. We want to hear about your experiences. You don’t have to share your fears if you don’t want to, but we’d love to know if something you’ve overcome, or something you’re working on right now. And we can cheer you on and let us be able to help you on the journey if you need help. And we can also share some more of our interesting uncomfortable situations if you’d like because we’re fine. Well, we’re not but we’re gonna be because we’re doing it afraid we’re fine being vulnerable. And we’re here to help you do the same.
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Sarah Schrader 31:34
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