Dealing with imposter syndrome
If you’ve ever felt like a fraud, second guessed if your work or something you had to share was good enough to be seen and heard or that you even know enough to be teaching something you’ve probably felt the effects of Imposter Syndrome. It’s a real thing, and in this week’s episode we are talking about what exactly Imposter Syndrome is, how it can really affect our businesses and life and some thoughts on how to push past to let your voice be heard and to serve others.
The Definition of Imposter Syndrome
Imposter Syndrome can be defined as “a psychological pattern in which an individual doubts their accomplishments and has a persistent internalized fear of being exposed as a ‘fraud'”
Source: Langford and Clance
Types of Imposter Syndrome
- Perfectionist – sets high expectations for themselves, if they don’t all them they feel like a failure
- Expert – they need to know every piece of information, they are all trying to improve
- Natural Genius – when things usually come easy for them and now they are struggling with something
- Soloist – they feel like they have to accomplish everything on their own, they feel like a failure when they have to ask for help
- Superwoman/man – push themselves to work harder to prove themselves, they need to succeed in all aspects of life at all times
Source for Types of Imposter Syndrome
When We Start Something New Our Little Me Likes To Keep Us In Our Comfort Zone
While Imposter Syndrome can creep up at any point while we are creating, doing , teaching or sharing, for us we have found it to be most present when we are beginning something new. Maybe we are taking on a new service, sharing something for the first time on social media or even taking on a life event for the first time like being a future mom. Whatever it may be, when we are first experiencing it ourselves, we won’t feel as confident in sharing it with others because it is new to us as well. But as we remembered from reading January’s book club read, Believe Bigger by Marshawn Evans Daniels, the feeling of fraud that creeps up in these moments is really your Little Me trying to keep you in your comfort zone, and that keeps you from reaching your greater potential.
Imposter Syndrome Keeps You From Serving Others Too
Think about it, by not sharing, what is someone missing out on hearing and learning from? The thought that we don’t have anything to be said that hasn’t already been said by someone else can keep someone from being served by you. We all have our own unique voice and ways about sharing something, and that may just be what a person who follows you needs. When you start to wonder if what you have to say is good enough to share or if people would even want to hear it, think about that. Who are you missing out on serving? Who are you missing out on connecting with?
Shaunae shares how she created a post on Instagram sharing how she feels like a fraud almost every day and was blown away by the response it got and how many people it resonated with. We aren’t alone in our struggles. Often our struggles are what can help connect us. If we share what we know and document our journey, really being authentic with our audience, they will be able to resonate with it.
Imposter Syndrome is bound to creep up again, especially in new phases of life. But give yourself permission to be where you are at, wherever that is. Know that you are valuable, worthy and have something to share.